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The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.”
— The Notebook
I used to feel that adoration was the most capable power on the substance of the planet, yet what I had not yet acknowledged is that is not simply only a power. Love is all that is. There are numerous things that can be said to be boundless, the cosmic system, forever however the greater part of the one single wonder that exists inside and without of the universe and of vastness is love. Love is understanding a wave is the sea, implying that you are not separate for the totality of the universe and everything in it.
Love can be communicated from numerous points of view, in the idea of adoration is nebulous, boundless you can’t really give one single definition to it, in light of the fact that to characterize it intends to characterize boundlessness and limitlessness would never be characterized. How about we take a look in which we can express love, which basically is to express our spirit.
Part 1: Turn Your Love Inwards
The first and the last love is and will always be inward. And Hermes Trismegistus sums this up perfectly when he says….
“As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soul…”
“As within, so without” is simply referring perfectly to the way that inward reality also known as consciousness has a direct reflection on the outer reality. Yep outer reality is a mirror of your inner reality, it is a line of symmetry.
And this is why love cannot exist outwardly until it exists inwardly. It will be impossible for you to fully, unconditionally express it outwardly until that fire of love has sparked and become a magnificent flame inwardly.
What does it mean to fully love yourself. You accept who you are in this moment, with no intentions to change yourself in any way, shape or form. Full acceptance means first understanding how you think, how you feel, your emotions and fully accepting that in any given point in time.
This even means the “negative or bad” thoughts that you have, because usually they are bad according to societies ‘conditions’. And when you see that you give yourself condemnation or self-punishment don’t ignore it, accept that for that moment this is the way you feel but see it, paralyze that thought, feeling or emotion like the glare of a bat.
Look we all at some point have a guilty conscious about ourselves. Rather than condemning yourself disapproval, catch it in it tracks by being aware of it and just witness it with a neutral mind, and the pure presence that arises will be love.
Part 2. Loving Outwardly
With Self-love being the basic foundation of all love, we are still in a physical world of form and we can express our loves outwardly in a way that can send your love into people like a lighting strike in a storm.
Love doesn’t have a set of rules by it which it goes by, remember it is infinite, and infinity there are no rules. With that being said this isn’t just about your friends, your family, your spouse this about everyone you come into contact with. Here are 4 ways to Love someone….
1. Unconditional
Just as you give yourself the permission to fully accept yourself in this moment unconditionally, that same love should be given to people you come in contact with. We all have different minds, different levels of thinking and different dimensions of awareness. What I mean by dimensions of awareness is that everyone processes information differently, the dimension in which you process information differently than the dimension of process in me.
With this being said, we are bound to have differences, likes, dislikes, morals, beliefs. The are generally speaking going to be unique from one person to the next. But beliefs are limited to the yin and yang of the non-dualistic world and in this world beliefs, perspectives are limited from many, and words can’t express how many to the physical world.
But again just as love is infinite, why should you place your love towards the world because of your limiting beliefs and that goes for my perspective as well? The rhetorical answer to this is we shouldn’t. The world is conditional, always subject to change, but love is eternal, never changes and neither should yours.
2. Giving Them Space
We all like to feel loved and close to others, and we certainly like those we genuine love to know it. But sometimes our affection towards someone can become overboard to the point where people get a bit claustrophobic when we get up all in their grill. Sometimes in the case of love, less is more. Not less from the standpoint of your love towards the someone but in terms of giving them wings. And in this case, giving the people you love space is the best thing you can do to keep a healthy loving relationship.
We all like to be comfortable, free flowing and one of the best ways that someone can allow others to express this wings of freedom is by giving them space.
3. Love Can’t Be Traded
From a young kid we are often begin to look at mommy and daddy from the standpoint of what we can get out of them, this is common a kid right? Well the challenge when it comes to loving is that it goes from a kid and transitions into adulthood for a lot of people’s lives.
Rather than looking at someone as the way that they are at any given moment in time, we look at what at them as what we can get out of them that can increase the value and comfort of our lives. This is not the way that unconditional love works, it means that you see a person as they are at any point in time minus your beliefs about who they are and you love that person with no conditions attached.
4. Giving Them Presence
The other day I went out to breakfast and noticed that a couple had come in, and the girl was sitting their eating her breakfast and the guy next her was on his phone the entire time. Now, I’m not sure what kind of relationship that they had, or if she really cared, there are more and more relationships that have turned into the kind where technology is the relationship itself.
With technology on a rise, and attention spans are on the decline, conversations are reduced half attention on that person and half of it is either in technology or soaked up by their own mind. True love is when you begin having a conversation with someone, by giving your entire attention (presence) to that person rather than being elsewhere whether it’s in your own mind wondering off or in phone but not limited to all technology.
5. Humor
Humor is Gods way of saying don’t take life too seriously. One of the best ways that you can show someone that there is actually more to life than stress and worry, you are showing them a brighter side.
Laughing and smiling is great way to release endorphins which in laymen’s terms are the chemicals in the body that cause stress. Life isn’t meant to be taken seriously to point of suffering, and constant worry. Be like a child and laugh your way to love.
6. Joy
Joy happens when you fully understand that there is only one SUSTAINABLE fulfillment in this life and that is your inward reality AKA Consciousness. When you become fully empty inside which means that you are experiencing presence, and again means that your looking inward then you will come to the core of your being which is Joy. Joy is when you don’t look at the world outside of you for your fulfillment, your complete freedom, it is your inward fulfillment which is the only significant fulfillment that there is.
When you have come back to your being and joy merge then you will illuminate the earth with love. You will turn into an earthquake of love, your joy and your love will become ONE. With this being said, I would love to hear what your thoughts are on how to live a more loving life, can’t wait to hear them comment in the section below.
Now We Will Read 10 Fundamental Way To Pure Love
1. Use relationships to teach you how to be whole within.
Relationships aren’t about having another person complete you, but coming to the relationship whole and sharing your life interdependently. By letting go of the romantic ideal of merging and becoming “one,” you learn as Rainer Maria Rilke says, to love the distances in relationship as much as the togetherness.
2. See your partner for who he or she really is.
The romantic tragedy occurs when you view the person you are in love with as a symbol of what they have come to represent, the idea of them. When you realize that more often than not you don’t really know your partner, you begin to discover who they are and how they change and evolve.
3. Be willing to learn from each other.
The key is to see the other as a mirror and learn from the reflection how you can be a better person. When you feel upset, rather than blame your partner and point fingers, remain awake to what has yet to be healed in yourself.
4. Get comfortable being alone.
In order to accept that love can’t rescue you from being alone, learn to spend time being with yourself. By feeling safe and secure to be on your own within the framework of relationship, you will feel more complete, happy, and whole.
5. Look closely at why a fight may begin.
Some couples create separateness by fighting and then making up over and over again. This allows you to continue the romantic trance, creating drama and avoiding real intimacy. If you become aware of what you fear about intimacy, you’ll have a better sense of why you’re fighting—and likely will fight far less.
6. Own who you are.
We generally grasp at romantic love because we’re yearning for something that is out of reach, something in another person that we don’t think we possess in ourselves. Unfortunately, when we finally get love, we discover that we didn’t get what we were looking for. True love only exists by loving yourself first. You can only get from another person what you’re willing to give yourself.
7. Embrace ordinariness.
After the fairy-dust start of a relationship ends, we discover ordinariness, and we often do everything we can to avoid it. The trick is to see that ordinariness can become the real “juice” of intimacy. The day-to-day loveliness of sharing life with a partner can, and does, become extraordinary.
8. Expand your heart.
One thing that unites us is that we all long to be happy. This happiness usually includes the desire to be close to someone in a loving way. To create real intimacy, get in touch with the spaciousness of your heart and bring awareness to what is good within you. It’s easier to recognize the good in your partner when you’re connected to the good in yourself.
9. Focus on giving love.
Genuine happiness is not about feeling good about ourselves because other people love us; it’s more about how well we have loved ourselves and others. The unintentional outcome of loving others more deeply is that we are loved more deeply.
10. Let go of expectations.
You may look to things such as romance and constant togetherness to fill a void in yourself. This will immediately cause suffering. If you unconsciously expect to receive love in certain ways to avoid giving that love to yourself, you will put your sense of security in someone else. Draw upon your own inner-resources to offer love, attention, and nurturance to yourself when you need it. Then you can let love come to you instead of putting expectations on what it needs to look like.
These are only a few ways to explore real intimacy. How do you create a loving connection in your relationship?
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#Ref:
- http://universoulawakening.com/5-ways-to-love/
- https://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-ways-to-create-a-strong-intimate-relationships/